abortion letter from baby to mommy
Im not mad at you anymore. Im 33. In 1971 a Catholic woman who wrote this letter had an abortion in New York. I dont know you but it seems to me that if you went through with it, it was 100% the right thing to do. I'm just a tiny someone, Anti-abortion and abortion-rights activists argue their viewpoints on the steps of the State House in Trenton, N.J., April 30, 1973. I hoped the pain and loss in my gut would fade away over time but it hasnt. We talked all weekend, tried finding ways to make it work but we both knew it wasnt the time because of so many factors, the big ones being my health and finances. He wants me to get an abortion, but I just dont think I can do it. Everyday I think about my baby, Im still google searching what the baby would look like at this gestation age, what the baby would be doing. Im grateful I was in a position to have options and make a choice as a woman. She is a lover of writing, hiking, spending as much time outside as possible, and going to concerts. is! Thankyou all for sharing your stories + most of all the letter to the little light. Love to you and your baby girl. Hes worried our quality of life will suffer for the whole family. Hi Kai Your baby will always be with you, even if your boyfriend isnt. I was so lonely and had nobody to talk to, man I really thought I was gonna go crazy when we took the break. Truth is, I have no job, I am back in school with one child taken care of by my parents, I cannot bring another right now and of I did this new opportunity would go away. He started to be excited about the idea of starting a family with me and even though we were both stressed and both cried a lot.. we finally started having discussions about moving in together, getting better jobs finding a healthcare provider and all types of different things to prepare for our baby. Youre still with me, and Im grateful for that too. I had my abortion at 5 weeks and 1 day i knew it was the right thing to do but i did want my baby I was scared but overwhelmed i didnt want to go thru what i did i remember a time i was for abortion but until u have to go thru one u have no right to talk i too also got my sonogram which was supposed to be a joyful experience it still was because wow it was beautiful .i love and hope to see my baby one day .. Im a mother to 5 boys.. 2 from my previous marriage that I share 50/50 custody of and 3 littles that are with me 24/7. Our relationship has been a roller coaster from start to now. Not how I thought I would live my life. We then move to a different room and wait for the doctor. And Im scared because Ive read what an abortion can do or affect my fertility. When your raised in foster care it is because there is virtually no one else willing or able to care for you as a child. Im so torn and feel so alone. SUBSCRIBE: $1 for 3 months. My apt is tomo And I dont want to go. I still was no where near ready for how much my life would have to change. I will terminate in 3 days. There was also this paranoia about who the dad was. Maybe you can relate with "Jess," a young woman who posted her abortion story in 2019 on the Shout Your Abortion website. But deep down I know I might regret it if I abort it. This resonates with me. Many of my patients have gone through the same thing, and it is never easy. I dont understand how someone who has children already, can be so selfish and cold hearted. Hes verbally abusive, Ive spent all my money on him, no savings, lots of debt he makes the money I just make very little. Please keep your baby. Xxx, We are all such incredible and compassionate women. Help us build the most popular collection of contemporary poetry on the internet! I'll sing loudly in my first school concert Leet had an abortion at age 15 in the early 1980s. my boyfriend has 3 daughters from 2 previous relationships age 10, 8, & 2. According to The Mirror, a mother explained how she would be relieved if her third child died in their sleep because she was too afraid to get an abortion when she was pregnant as the pregnancy . She wo t talk to anyone as she feels she would be seen as weak. We dont regret it. You will be in my thoughts and in my heart. Thank you. None of it matters. Your dads hand squeezes mine, although I dont think its purposeful, and he asks again, Whats wrong? I look him dead in the eyes, knowing Im about to change his life forever. I have so much pain and hurt in my heart. I'm sorry Mamma, you couldn't eat and was having nausea. Were you touched by this poem? What if I was never able to get back on track with school and start my career? I cry. I dont know where to go or what to research for. I think Id end up more broken than ever. This would have delayed everything. I was 5 weeks and didnt know it. Always imagine what he or she will look like. Our family was complete. I know thats the right decision but I cant stop crying or thinking about baby . I am sure I am going to be the Ugh. I just had to message to empathise that this is not an easy decision and I understand the turmoil you are likely going through right now. I want you to know, I understand. Its killing me and Im crying every night. I just felt I needed more time to see other heart specialist and doctors to figure out what can be done about my heart before I have another child. It will be 8 years since my abortion in July and I still think about it every day. I might have forgotten what I learned and failed my license exam in the future since Id have to take a leave. I dont know how to help her other than being there. Yes, he did everything he was supposed to and yes the tests afterwards declared him sterile. My partner abandoned me and I had no money. I long to feel the grass tickle my toes My decision to have an abortion was a major fork in the road of my life. All the best xxxx, Hi Owami, your message speaks to me because I was completely alone too. My first pregnancy ended the relationship because I betrayed him, although he would never step down from his responsibilities , and thats how he made me feel. I dont know what to do but I see no way out of this. I have a three year old. My blood is one part plasma and two parts pinot noir. I felt like he had to know it is his right to know. Her due date has passed now. And Ill honour them both every minute of every day. Two years later in our relationship, he did end up confessing to me that the abortion caused him to resent me. Thank you for sharing your story, I made a promise to myself my decision was not in vain and Im almost done with my bachelors degree. I still do. Your dad looks at me and then the tests before putting them down, one in my lap and the other in his, but it falls in between us how symbolic. He doesnt want to start over and says that we are too old. I wish this decision wasnt so hard. After I check in, I have to take another urine test. Then I went into early menopause at 34 and never had kids. I hope my 2nd child knows I love him or her. But why was this pregnancy right now? Made the biggest mistake of my life 4 yrs ago. Again, I sleep in the same room as your dad that night, and when my alarm goes off, I get ready to take the bus to work. Ive imagined names and what he would look like. To explain the center's work, Pinson told a story about a girl who showed up with her mom on the morning the Heartbeat Act took effect, asking for an abortion. Massachusetts Democrat told to resign after abortion remarks leave parents irate. i struggle deeply with wanting to try again. I wish I could talk to someone who gets it so much :,( also cate I hope your ok and you and your husband sorted things out. Now I m just waiting for my appointment but I feel so shit , down and gonna cry all the time. An Honest Letter About Abortion. 13 years later I still cry for my baby. In a saline abortion procedure, caustic saline solution was injected into the mother's womb. I go to sleep the same way I have every night since I found out about you: heartbroken and tearful. Praying for you! Physically or health wise and its not suppose to be this way. I love him so much it hurts I cant imagine my life without him, he filled a hole I didnt know I had. She told me she was flattered but nothing could stop her from the abortion. This moved me. I told him to not come at all and I would be fine. She is planning to keep the baby because she doesnt think she could handle the depression that would follow an abortion. I feel she was a girl. The month before was the most emotionally and physically exhausting of my life. So thank you, next week Im going for it, as difficult as it is, as much as I want this child and already love him/her I have to be realistic and also ask, what kind of life would I be offering this child. When I started getting very nauseous all the time my Mom said I was definitely pregnant and we went to the gynecologist who gave me an ultrasound and said I was pregnant. Exactly a month later I find out Im pregnant again. Im only 21 and Im not financially free. I know he has to process this but Im in agony and dont want to make a choice based on what he wants. But i wanted to say thank-you because your post was something i came across before i went in for my abortion and it brought me to tears. We were in this sad nightmare together, weren't we? I was afraid, honey. fTo tell you the truth I can't explain how happy I am to know that you are my mom. If you are in the position to do so, please consider becoming a SMBC (single mom by choice). Im in the beginning of my nursing school. I loved you, my first, my only." The afternoon I found out I was pregnant with you was just like any other day waiting for my period: I was late. Children cannot eat love and so please think about your financial situation. a desire to meet its mother; Reactions to this song have been divided. And He chose me to teach you about LOVE! no one is on my side. "But I could hear her cry. God has a way of pulling us out of any situation and will guide us and provide strength. I want more than anything to be a mom. Cant help thinking its meant to be when I got pregnant again. I would never say that Im over it and my biggest regret is not being careful enough to avoid getting pregnant in the first place. I was promoted to junior teacher two weeks ago. Im doing my final major project in my fashion degree and want my final collection to be inspired by my experience. It hurts the relationship with my husband, and we are about to be separated as we cannot communicate anymore. Please please please pray for us so that my darling would come back to me. My heart tells me it wa a girl. The abortion will be via the pill (which I think is an awfully ironic name for it). My boyfriend and I have only been dating a few months. I need advice from someone, anyone. Its a hard decision, Hi there Im in the same situation, dont know what to do Im so sick ? Im playing the song you listened to sobbing. I really didn't want to die. I prayed on it and as days went on my baby grew inside me but my symptoms from the pregnancy and the disease increased. This post hit home for me. Because we still didnt get married when our family asked us we use to say next year next year but now I dont think if its ever gone happen. What if I still had no money, no stable place to live? Im absolutely terrified of both scenarios and have been crocodile tearing constantly. I dont want to regret terminating my baby but what if I get into a situation where I cant get out of? I dont know where Im going to go or how Im going to make this work but Im terrified. I want a burrito. Gabrielle Kruger He ignores me when Im upset and just goes to bed with that knowledge. I feel awful. This is my first time reading a story that actually resonates with the bittersweetness if my own experience. I am sitting with this sweet being I cannot support, and feeling so sad. My room mate and best friend had an abortion two days ago. Does anyone else feel similar? Do I honor my heart and have another sweet lamb, potentially subjecting this human to another absentee parent who secretly resents their existence- OR- do I get the abortion. Its almost the same situation. All I could say was 'I'm sorry, I'm sorry, baby, I'm sorry.' As a mother, you never, ever, ever forget. This is me right now,I dont know what to do its so hard. It breaks my heart to know that the only two times Ive been pregnant ended with me terminating. I have been battling with the decision for some time now, had an appointment yesterday and didnt go because the voices of those who tell me I need to have the courage to keep the baby keep ringing in my head and those that guilt trip me on the decision of abortion and how wrong it is. I know her from my dreams. I dont want to let you go. I knew I wanted to finish school, and with barely making enough to keep the house stocked with I knew I would have to turn to work full time to be able to keep it. Then after that we took a break and he broke up with me on the day I got abortion and said that hes moved to a different state and didnt think he wanted to come back home. And I too pray from the core of my heart that you all get back your unborn ones. How do I pick them? My parents would have had to raise the child on the other side of the country and I knew I wouldnt have been able to bear being away from it. I recently just had my second abortion in 9 months . She felt because of the drugs it was best to have an abortion. Because I wanted abortion, I took my first baby's life. I am totally against abortion. Mom, please listenplease. I dont know if you have lived in regret or relief of your abortion before this moment, or what feelings his opinions have risen out of you now- all I know is what you decided to do with your pregnancy, whether that involved him ten years ago or not, was your decision. The doctor leaves and your dad and I hold each other and cry. I also didnt want to be a single mum of someone who did not want the child. 1 A letter to a woman considering abortion Dear Friend, I was thinking of you today. My supports at the time were my boyfriend, a few very close friends my age, and my 4 younger siblings (3 were under 6 years old at this time). Ive always had irregular periods and issues. I begged mi amor to reconsider, I proposed to her 3 days before she had the abortion. I am finish a social work degree and my fiance just finished his Masters and has started working. I dont blame you for choosing to terminate your pregnancy. From the moment on, he has told me to get an abortion, that its not the time. Again, I sleep in the same room as your dad that night, and when my alarm goes off, I get ready to take the bus to work. We agonized over what to do and spent a week making our decision which whilst incredibly painful was ultimately the right one for us. Open Letter Concerning the Killing of "Baby Amanda" On November 3, 2022, National Public Radio (NPR) aired the sounds of the killing of a Child through abortion. I know this choice that I am making will be the hardest but I know in the long run, I will be saving my child from being born into a dysfunction environment I at least owe my child that. But I begged her not to go, I pleaded at times crying on the phone. June 1, 2021 2:30 PM EDT. Thats the last burrito hell ever order without any major care in the world, I think to myself. I knew in my heart that I didnt want to let it go. He is also younger than me and nowhere near ready for a child and even moving in with me makes him scared. I cry. He is quite a bit older than me and has 2 kids of his own already. I didnt want to be, but I had a hard time standing up to him and saying no for myself. I instantly thought about abortion and although I was afraid Id regret it I went ahead and scheduled the appointment. I promise that the next time I see that little blue plus, the next time you are in the same reality as me, I will be ready for you. My pregnancy officially ended this evening and it hurts so bad, I feel so much sadness and loss, but I know my baby would not have had the life they deservedas difficult as it is to process, I know deep down that this was the right descision, this baby deserved so much more than I could give. I dont know if hes being dramatic or not but he thinks we will lose our home because we are barely making ends meet with one in daycare. I am thinking of you xx. I have an 11 month old and a 13 year old from my husbands first marriage. I wanted to give her grandchildren but that couldnt be my only reason for keeping the baby. We want to expand our family but we werent expecting to do it so soon. Sometimes I wish I still had my baby. That is my story which I have never shared. She assures me, You dont have to do this. I tell her, I do. I compose myself. I got an abortion 6 days ago. Must be awful. The baby daddy is crying too because we have a lot to achieve in life and this isnt what we expected. I was shocked. Hes basically ignoring me emotionally but talking to me civil. She is 23, theyve been together 6 months and shes not ready for such a huge commitment. April S., New Jersey. We, unlike many stories, are able to provide and give the child a good life. Iv never felt worse in my whole life. I believe that ultimately, our babies are still with us in a spirit. And it bothers me that my husbands doesnt realize the pain Im going through. The doctor walks in and is quite pregnant. Fathers should never be bored of their children. I wish I wouldve bought her plan b or made sure she was taking her birth control but those options are completely out of reach now. I really can not explain how happy I am to know that you'll be my mom, another thing I also proud is to see the love with which I was conceived It seems that I will be the happiest kid! We are both unhappy . I dont want having another baby to be detrimental to my current children and cant help think that it will be. Hi. Like you, I could not have made a life for my baby at that time. I know my baby deserves a life I couldnt of given her now or at that time and I know one day she will come back to me, I get excited when i think about meeting her finally one day when we are both ready, I wish I had support here so I could cry to someone who gets it, Im 23 and I had my abortion at 5 weeks and three days in April. A boy or a girl? Im not pregnant. I went into the first floor bathroom and peed on that little white-tipped stick. In the end this is her choice and all I can do is support her to the best of my ability. Our hearts held firm. When I told him I was pregnant the first thing he said is lets get a chicken sandwhich. I was a 19 year old college student with absolutely no plans to marry or have kids at that point. I am so heartbroken. It uses medicine or surgery to remove the embryo or fetus and placenta from the uterus. That exact day I started bleeding I went to the ER and they said I might miscarry again I told him and he is convinced I am going to lose the baby. I dont know how I got to this point of being so mistreated and lost. I still wonder if o made the right decision. I know that deep down hes right but its tearing me apart. We started trying, but didnt expect it to come so soon. I can hardly keep up with what I have now in my life. I dont have the financial capability to take care of a child. No matter how he was conceived this baby wasnt a mistake not to me. Both in you, as a memory, and in heaven as a person, for eternity. Have you done it? Your dad is an alcoholic. He says if i get an abortion we must split that Hell respect my decision but we cannot continue together. I did an abortion 10 years ago and never disclosed to my them boyfriend who is now my husband. In a recent post on the Reddit forum TwoXChromosomes, an anonymous user shared her feelings about her upcoming abortion: Little Thing: I can feel you in there. He is the reason why I feel so motivated now, and although its not easy I wouldnt trade him for anything in the world. My name is John, and. I was 5 weeks pregnant. My Unborn Love By We use protection and still Ive ended up pregnant once more. Oh and one more thing abortion doesnt affect your fertility. I know what I will do and why I feel it is the best choice I can make, but I will never forget this little tiny creature that has visited me and wanted so much to be my family, as I so wanted to be hers/his. I want the baby, and he says not yet. I dont think Ill ever forgive myself, I dropped out of school and my life is a mess. My husband is dead set against it and Im not sure what to do. Im so confused and torn between getting an abortion or keeping the baby. I love this man but i dont want a baby now and i feel the worst human being in this world for thinking that way. I regret my decision so much and cannot put it into words. He reminds me every day and he is resentful towards me like Im some kind of murderer. ????? As you can imagine, childhood and progression through young adulthood is very hard for foster children because most of our supports disappear once we turn 18 or so and are no longer eligible for the child welfare systems services. And draw pictures, made especially for you. Im just lost. I am a teacher and take care of infants to two year olds, Im devastated because in a better situation I would have kept this child. How first and my first. I know I would feel his kicks by now. Its so unfair that guys help in making the baby. I am a mom. And way farther along than I thought. I remember my boyfriend and I sitting in the car one evening and wondering aloud what it would look like- would it have my eyes, or his nose? I felt empty after too, 10 years later and I still have regret. I am sad because I already have a connection with the child in my belly and I cry everyday thinking about the fact that I wont be able to hold him or her or see their face. I pulled up my pants, didnt flush, and walked back into the classroom where twelve toddlers slept. I was 36 yrs old, with a 3.5 yrs old girl who was born premature at week 28. Now, faced with having one in our early 40s is terrifying. She was already the mom of a young girl and in an abusive relationship. I will be 37 years old and have had previous abortions but after this miscarriage (I never had one before), fear that I will never conceive again came across me. Long story short Im 26 now, engaged to my partner for the last 5 years. I even Bought girl stuff.. in the end I told myself he was right. And then we came back home. I have never cried to hard in my life. I want to help the conversation start on a different platform and educate. Why cant we have our dreams and a baby? I think when we choose to do something like that we are so confused. I really dont! I have been looking for support from this side. My little sister just found out she is pregnant and I am happy for her but I just cant help being sad that I didnt get to know my baby and see him/her grow and I may never get that chance again ( was told it wouldnt be easy to get pregnant to begin with) that baby could very well be my first and only. Its not being selfish if you think about it deeper. An Ohio lawmaker proposing a near-total abortion ban was given a hypothetical: A 13-year-old girl is raped and becomes pregnant as a result. But then, Im scared that I will have to raise a child by myself. I aborted even though my heart ached and I loved it every day. I cry all the time and I dont think Ill ever stop. I have images that its the same as trying to kill one of my current children. But its up to you. More than I want good . Me and my boyfriend have our own issues and this time he wanted me to keep this baby but I told him Im not ready to become a mother. Despite the fact that I used contraception, I still got pregnant last week. Im stressed and feel so alone. The heavy burden and guilt that I felt each day makes me question myself why I did came to that point, if I was careful enough to not make mistake. It hurt because I was all alone in it,the thought of it break my heart into million pieces Ive prayed to God to forgive me but still I cant get over it. .. thank you so much for this. I am not waiting for my appointment in about 10 days for now. I had an abortion past the point of having the pill so had to have the surgery, It was the most painful time of my life physically and emotionally and I never expected it would continue to haunt me. I am heartbroken. The film is based on a story called "A Letter from an Aborted Child," which had been used for nearly 10 years by Father Stephen Lesniewski to show women in a time of indecision. Id like to represent other womans stories not only my own, does anyone have any advice or an opinion on the matter? I had abortion almost 4 years ago and it still affects me greatly. , I think to myself. Hi Kenz. I understand you completely I found out I was pregnant pretty early ( 2-3 weeks ) decided I was going to go through with the pregnancy after me & my boyfriend relationship changes drastically he started to become emotionally and mentally abuse. Dont forget the chips! I waited for him on the couch in our front room, digging my thumb into the ridge of my index finger on both hands. I have a toddler and Im pregnant again. I was 14 weeks with two boys already. Jocelyn Miller is a Montessori teacher in San Francisco who spends her weekdays supporting the growth, development, and independence of young children. A letter from an unborn baby: fHi mom!, how are you?, I am doing just fine thanks. Whitney. I am nearly 25 now and had an abortion at 17. I pray for you, and your baby. This is not a fictional story. You are making the best decision for yourself at this point in time , I feel like I can relate and that give me a lil strength. I wish I would have told him to have a nice life. This time is different. Im praying that I get an opportunity to meet her one day .. look into her sweet little face and just hold her and never ever let her go. A few days later I had a surgical abortion. My partner said he would support me either way but I knew deep down to him it might as well have been the end of the world. Everyone at work keeps getting pregnant and every time I hurt. My boyfriend has two children ages 18 and 13. 'Dear Mommy' So begins the correspondence from an unborn baby to her mother. Im so scared though, because Im no longer with my boyfriend I wont get to meet that baby anymore, if it happens it will be with someone else, most likely. I had gone off my birth control a year prior and I didnt get my period for six months; then once I did, they were not predictable: they always came, but my cycle wasnt steady. So afraid. It has only been two years. Did you spell check your submission? I am curious as wel. For those who may have suffered physical injury due to an abortion, we ask that you contact Operation Rescue at 316-683-6790, or e-mail us your story at info.operationrescue@gmail.com. I take his hand in mine and say, Everything thats happened the past few weeks doesnt matter anymore. I took away all the vitamins, iron, proteins, calcium and every bit of you in me. Ive been her best friend for 6 years and I never saw this coming. Youre feelings and emotions emulate mine. Ive always wanted to be a mom, and already, I feel like I know you and yet I cant have you.. Know the Issues. Im not ready for kids. It helps to know I am not alone so thank you. Hi Mikal, I understand how torn you feel. I am currently 5 months pregnant with my child. I was one l with you. The dad and I had talked about having another child after 3.5 yrs.
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